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Learning to enjoy success is a subject near and dear to my heart. I have to admit I’ve spent most of my adult life sabotaging success. If you haven’t heard the term “self-sabotage” you probably don’t have a clue what I’m talking about.

Logically and realistically, who wouldn’t want to be successful? When it comes to self-sabotaging success, logic has nothing to do with it – it’s all about emotions. Think of self-sabotage as taking three steps forward toward your goals and then suddenly, and without warning, you’re taking two steps back. I call it the sabotage shuffle. Most of the time we don’t consciously realize we are “shuffling” because it’s become a natural way of living our lives.

woman shielding eyes from success

My definition of sabotaging success: Any destructive thoughts, habits or behaviors keeping you from achieving and enjoying success.

I made success a struggle for as long as I can remember. I would begin to succeed and then suddenly change careers, get sick or move to another city. Unconsciously I’d do something to lose momentum and have to begin my quest for success all over again.

I came to realize success wasn’t fun for me. Without consciously knowing it, I was doing things to make success a struggle. In fact, being a role model or having to maintain success seemed downright frightening to me. Thankfully I don’t feel that way any longer.

Here are a few things I did to change my thinking and mindset. If you can relate to making success a struggle, you may want to do these activities too:

1. I made a list of success words and wrote down my first “emotional” reaction to each word.
• Fame
• Triumph
• Victory
• Winner
• Profitable
• Thriving
• Flourishing
• Prosperous
• Lucrative

I studied my answers carefully. There were positive lessons to be learned from my reactions.

2. I wrote a detailed description of what success meant to me emotionally, physically, spiritually, professionally, personally and financially. It took several months to complete my descriptions, but it was well worth the time and effort.

3. I made time daily to read or listen to personal and professional development books. My goal was to discover one new positive thing about myself each day and turn that discovery into a positive affirmation.

The biggest lesson I learned: Success is about believing I am worthy and deserving of the rewards associated with being successful. Today I can honestly say I appreciate and enjoy my successes! I’ve written an entire book on the subject of recognizing and conquering self-sabotage. It is available as a paper and Kindle.
Here’s the link: How To Give Your the POWER to Succeed on Amazon.com – Recognizing the things you’re doing that may be keeping you from the things you want.

Let me ask you this:

  • Could you be making success a struggle?
  • Could you be unconsciously self-sabotaging?
  • Could you be allowing the opinions of others to influence your desire to succeed?

Here’s what I’d like you to do during the coming weeks: Make success fun!

Please take a minute and share your thoughts with us.

Here’s to enjoying all your successes,

 
 
 
 
Sharon Michaels
Author, blogger and success teacher
Owner of WomenWhoWantToSuccessfullyWorkForThemselves.com

P. S. If you’d like to coach one-on-one, join a MasterMind group or become a guest blogger on this blog, please email me at – coaching@sharonmichaels.com or use the Contact Sharon form on this site.
 
 
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I’ve written and spoken about happiness many times over these past twenty-five plus years of my career. Sometimes I wonder if we women truly understand what happiness means to us personally and professionally. We want to create happiness for others, but do we know how to create happiness for ourselves?

I remember many years ago my husband and I were driving through a gorgeous part of New Mexico on a beautiful sunny day. I was in New Mexico to speak to a group of professional women about self-empowerment and I’d just published my first book. Professionally and personally I was in a good place.

My original vision board

I don’t recall exactly what I was lamenting about, but I was complaining about something. My husband pulled the car into one of those scenic overlooks and stopped. He just sat quietly staring out the windshield at the natural beauty in front of us.
 
 
After several minutes he turned and asked, “Sharon, do you know what will make you happy?”

I was floored. He didn’t say it with malice or anger, he asked it as a legitimate question. I didn’t know what to say. I’d never thought about being happy or my definition of happiness. In my mind happiness was something you either were or you weren’t – almost like it was out of my control.

That question in New Mexico was a pivotal “aha” moment in my life. You know the kind of moment I mean, when you feel like a door has opened and you’re at an emotional cross-roads. I figure it had to be an important moment because I remember every sight, sound and emotional detail.

I was shocked to realize I actually didn’t know what happiness meant to me personally or professionally. If I didn’t know what made me happy, how was I going be happy?

Here’s what I decided to do and maybe it will work for you too:

1. I made quiet time with pen and paper to think about the past, present and future.

2. I began writing down some of my happiest memories from childhood to the present.

3. I looked for similarities and patterns in my happiest moments. What did these happy memories have in common? I studied the similarities and began to see patterns evolving.

4. I thought about my “findings” and wrote a detailed definition of what happiness meant to me personally and professionally. I looked at the physical, emotionally, spiritual and financial elements of happiness and put it all down on paper.

5. Once I actually defined what would make me happy, I started writing my goals for the next months and years.

This process took me several weeks – it didn’t happen overnight. I can tell you that doing this was freeing. It gave me permission to hope and dream. I felt I had something motivating and exciting to look forward to in my life.

During this time my husband was doing the same activity. We carved out time to create vision boards together. We talked about what would make us happy personally and as a couple. My vision board had vacations in Hawaii and on the east coast, living in a warm climate and writing best-selling books. My husband’s board had golfing, eating at nice restaurants, vacations in Hawaii and the east coast and living somewhere warm. We were shocked at how many similar things made us happy. We’d really never discussed any of this before. I guess we thought we could read each other’s mind.

Fast forward five years after we made our original vision boards. Everything on those boards became a reality. Honestly, everything on those boards came true.
The bottom line: We created our own happiness.

Here’s the catch – you can’t create happiness if you don’t know what happiness means to you. It’s worth taking the time and making the effort to define personal and professional happiness.

  • Is it time to write out your definition of happiness?
  • How about doing this activity as a family?
  • How about creating a personal, professional and even a family “happiness” vision board?

Please take a minute and share your thoughts with us.

Here’s to creating happy memories,

 
 
 
 
Sharon Michaels
Author, blogger and success teacher
Owner of WomenWhoWantToSuccessfullyWorkForThemselves.com

P. S. If you’d like to coach one-on-one, join a MasterMind group or become a guest blogger on this blog, please email me at – coaching@sharonmichaels.com or use the Contact Sharon form on this site.
 
 
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Are you ready to make 2017 more focused, fun and profitable?

There’s no better time than right now to start planning and implementing your 2017 hopes, dreams and goals.

When: 3 week online workshop – January 16 – February 4, 2017

Where: Online in our private Facebook Group. All done at your pace and in the comfort of your home.

This is a work-at-your-own-pace workshop. Participants don’t need to be at a certain place at a certain time. This workshop revolves around your schedule!

What we’ll be covering: You’ll leave this workshop with “real world” strategies and how-to’s for growing yourself personally and professionally AND growing your business to greater profitability.

Each day January 16 – February 4, 2017 there will be posted on our Facebook Group page a new how-to, strategy or suggestion you can use in your business immediately.

You can put these “real world” concrete ideas into use immediately or save some of them for later.

Creating a Focused, Fun and Profitable 2017
For Yourself and Your Business
3 Week Online Workshop
January 16 – February 4, 2017

To read more and register yourself and/or give this workshop as a gift – here’s the link: Creating a Focused, Fun and Profitable 2017 For Yourself and Your Business
 
 
 
 
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Thank you guest blogger Tess Denton for this post.

The recent holidays included standing in line and standing in crowds – at Starbuck’s, at the grocery store, at the movies, and such. I could not help but overhear people talking. There is a common thread running through many conversations right now.

hope 2017

The thread is disillusionment and a loss of Hope. To be certain, we are living in complex times. The media provides an endless stream of bad news and negative messages shout at us in social media. A colleague of mine once told me that she preferred about getting her news from a newspaper rather than the television and the Internet, because you read a story once and move on. In today’s media saturated world, images, photos and stories are replayed ad nauseam, with graphic images always on the screen. It leaves us feeling helpless and emotionally wrought.

Good news! You can change your world. The New Year is a perfect time to rekindle Hope and create a Powerful Vision for your future. It is easy and transformative. Select 2.5 hours one day this month to turn off the television and stay away from the newsfeed on your telephone. Find a spot where you can work, uninterrupted. 2.5 hours is long enough to clear the mind clutter, and distance yourself from the constancy of bad news. Call your mini-retreat “HOPE 2017”.

A little insight about Hope: Charles Richard Snyder, a specialist in positive psychology, noted that Hope can impact several aspects of life, including; health, work, and personal meaning and that there are three main things that make up hopeful thinking:

Approaching life in a goal-oriented way
Finding different ways to achieve your goals
Believing that you can instigate change and achieve these goals

Your “HOPE 2017” mini-retreat guide includes tools from my “Building A Powerful Vision” process. Let’s begin:

Where: Find a spot where you will not be disturbed by your everyday life. Let people know that you will not be taking calls or answering text or e-mails during this time. Make this day an “off-site meeting”.

Begin: Sit quietly for a few minutes. You might listen to a bit of music. Being quiet for a time allows you to find the spot where Hope resides in and to spark the energy to create a hope-inspired vision for your work and life.

1) Reflect and Write – Spend 15 minutes in limitless thinking about and what you want to change, attract and achieve in 2017. Write an inventory of the thought streams. Once you have written your list, you are ready to move on.

2) Elaborate (The 3rd Degree) – Interview yourself. If someone handed your list to you, you would probably ask for more detail about the items on the list. As you take on the interviewer’s perspective, you might ask, “Who will benefit? Why do you want to do that? What will it mean to have that in your life?” Write your answers to these questions, as well. Once you have answered these questions for your list, re-read what you have written. It is likely that a few ideas and desires are prominent and feel “most important” to you.

3) Declare Your Intention – Announce what you intend to accomplish or attract into your reality. You have done the visioning work by creating vivid picture of your preferred reality in the previous two steps. Now, turn your list into a statement that describes your intention. Once you have done this, you’re ready to put some incremental goals in place. Later, post this intention. Keep it in sight. You might frame it or use it as the background on your computer or your cell phone. Consider making a vision board (www.buildingapowerfulvisionboard.com).

4) Outline Your Goals – Write out goals associated with your intention. For example, if your goal is to add $75,000 to your retirement by 2021, now would be a good time to describe the amount you intend to add each year. Plan the work and work the plan.

5) Map Your Journey – Describe how you will achieve your vision. List the types of actions and activities you’ll GET to do (not HAVE to do. Have to do sounds like work. Get to do means learning and expanding) to reach your intended outcome.

6) Hitch Up The Wagon… We’re heading out! – Decide how the first leg of your journey is going to play out. What are the few first steps that you will take and celebrate? Select some steps you can complete this week, and then get out there!

Without fail, the vision that this activity provides will result in a foundation of Hope for you to Change Your World in 2017!

Best of luck with your plan. As always, I welcome your comments.
 
 
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Visit www.tessdenton.com for copies of my books, Building A Powerful Vision Board and Building A Powerful Vision Planner: A One Year Guide to Creating A Life You Love. A tool I use in working with individuals and teams is the vision board. If you are new to the topic, a vision board is an external and concrete expression of the picture you hold in your mind of what you want to attract and achieve in your life. The tool is simple, yet powerful!

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Tess Denton works with women who are in professional transition or interested in developing entrepreneurial clarity. She engages creativity to help individuals and teams manage change, set direction, and achieve their goals. As an author and facilitator, Tess draws on her work with leading non-profit and for-profit companies in a number of industries.

Her business focuses on improved business communication and team building. Tess is author of “Building A Powerful Vision Board: A Path To Achieving Your Goals And What You Want In Life” and “Building A Powerful Vision Planner: A One-Year Guide to Creating A Life You Love”. Tess holds degrees in Communications and Training & Development.

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