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Dealing with Criticism

No one likes to be criticized personally or professionally, and especially when we are going for our goals. Whether we receive the criticism under a cloak of “constructive criticism” or as a hurtful joke, it still can affect our self-esteem and self-confidence.

Here is the definition of criticism from Dictionary.com: The expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes; the act of passing severe judgment; censure; faultfinding.

Why is criticism so hurtful? Why do we take criticism so personally?

I can only speak from my personal experience, but just saying the word criticism makes me defensive. We can’t hide from criticism because it seems to happen almost every day and in different circumstances. We often hear criticism from loved ones, our bosses and it even shows up on Social Media. I believe it is up to us to deal with criticism in a way that doesn’t affect how we feel about ourselves personally or professionally.

Here are some ways I’ve learned to deal with criticism:

1. Ignore it. I’m reminded of the old saying about letting criticism slide off of you like water off a duck’s back.

2. Analyze the source and situation. Was the criticism said in anger, made by someone who is critical of everything and everyone or did someone say it as a not-so-funny joke?

3. Was the statement really meant as a criticism? Could you have taken the statement out of context or the wrong way?

4. Accept that you are not perfect. As a recovering perfectionist, I often get my feelings hurt when someone points out that I have done something less than perfectly.

5. Decide to take criticism less personally. It’s not always an easy thing to do, but try to take the emotions out of the situation. Decide to view criticism from a less personal and emotional point of view.

I’ve found the key to overcoming criticism is not allowing the words of others to affect my self-confidence or self-esteem.

Words of wisdom: Surround yourself with positive nonjudgmental people and situations. It is up to you to believe in yourself, your abilities and your goals – don’t allow the words of others to dissuade you from going for your dreams.
Please, share your thoughts and comments with us. We’d love to hear from you.

Sharon Michaels
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