There are days when I have good intentions. I get up early, sit at the computer ready to work but all I seem to do is stare at a blank screen or worse yet, play Solitare. That’s when I begin wondering if self-motivation is a myth.

Here is the definition of self-motivation from Dictionary.com: Initiative to undertake or continue a task or activity without another’s prodding or supervision. I especially like the words “without another’s prodding.”

sign that says do it now

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Honestly, I consider myself motivated most of the time. On the days that I’m staring at the computer screen I begin wondering if there is really a way to stay consistently self-motivated or if self-motivation a myth?

This morning I found myself motivated enough to do some research into self-motivation. I want to share what I discovered:

1. In a 2010 research study conducted at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign it was shown that those who ask themselves how they will perform a task generally did better than those who told themselves that they would do the task. The conclusion was that by asking themselves an empowering question, people were more likely to build their own motivation.

By asking myself, “How many ways will I complete this task?” I am activating my subconscious mind to actually find the “how many ways” I could finish the task. By asking the question, I am unconsciously taking a more proactive approach to motivating myself to start and finish the task.

This same study found that affirmations such as “I will complete the task,” didn’t have the same impact on the subconscious mind. Telling myself wasn’t as effective as asking myself.

2. Research conducted by Zimmerman, Bandura and Martinez-Pons in the early 1990’s suggested that the expectations that we place on ourselves combined with the expectations of others, affect our level of self-motivation. If we expect to finish the project and do a good job, we’re more likely to stay motivated and focused on completing the job. Expectations affect self-motivation.

3. In an article published by the University of Rhode Island, the author Dr. Richard W. Scholl suggests that self-motivation is linked to how we perceive ourselves. If we perceive ourselves as capable and competent, we’re more likely to be consistently self-motivated. Self-esteem, self-confidence and self-motivation seem to go hand-in-hand.

Here’s what I personally took away from my research:
1. By asking myself “How many ways will I” I’m tapping into the power of my subconscious mind. I’m allowing my subconscious to show me how to motivate myself. I can become more proactive when I ask myself how to finish a task rather than when I tell myself to finish a task.

2. There are some days when I’m tired and simply don’t feel like working and that’s okay. It’s when the lack motivation persists for longer periods of time that I need to analyze more deeply why I’m not motivated to finish the task at hand.

3. Self-motivation and believing that I am capable and deserving of success go hand-in-hand. If I’m fearful of success, I’ll sabotage myself by losing the motivation and desire to complete the task or project.

Here’s my conclusion: Self-motivation isn’t a myth. I realize that I am fully in control of how motivated or not motivated I choose to be with the task in front of me. Being self-motivated or not being self-motivated is my choice.
 
 
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When you sit down to work on a business task or money making activity, do you ever find yourself being distracted by little things or, finding an excuse for not completing something that needs to be completed or putting off until later something that should have been done yesterday?

If you answered “yes,” please read on.

What's Your Excuse

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Here are a few definitions from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary:
Distraction: Something that makes it difficult to think or pay attention.
Excuses: To say that (someone) is not required to do something.
Procrastination: To put off intentionally the doing of something that should be done.

Do any of these definitions ring true with you?

Here are a few reasons you may find yourself easily distracted, making excuses or procrastinating:

1. You are afraid to fail or make a mistake.
2. You are not committed to the task.
3. You don’t believe what you’re doing is important.
4. You don’t believe you’re qualified to complete the task.
5. You’re bored.

Here are a few suggestions that may help you better understand why you’re not finishing your tasks:

1. Analyze what about the task or activity seems to be stopping you from completing it. This is the time to be honest with yourself. Is the task too complicated? Do you feel the pay-off for completing the activity isn’t rewarding enough?

2. Go back and revisit your “why” for working your business. Have you lost focus on why you’re working your business? Are you staying focused on the emotional, physical and/or financial gains for finishing what needs to be finished? Are the gains important to you? It your “why” motivating enough to keep you going forward?

3. Are your goals too small or too unrealistic? Is it time to revisit your goals? Your goals should be motivating enough that you’ll want to step out of your comfort zone and strive to succeed and thrive in your business but, not so overwhelming that you’ll become discouraged. Are your goals motivating or frightening you?

4. Have you bitten off more than you can chew? You know the old saying, so much to do and so little time. Have you gotten yourself into a time crunch? Are you too overwhelmed to know where to start?

5. Maybe you’re not doing the right thing. Seriously, maybe your business isn’t the right business for you. If day-after-day you’re finding yourself disenchanted and discouraged, maybe you’re not doing the right thing.

With all that said, I know there will be times you won’t feel like working because you simply don’t feel like working. Those are the times you’ll have to give yourself a kick in the pants and just do it. Not every day is going to be magical and motivating – that’s called life. When you work for yourself, there will be days when you’ll have to dig deep and motivate yourself to press forward and get the important things done.

If you’re relating to this post, my suggestion is to print off this quotation and keep it on your desk. “Procrastination makes easy things hard, hard things harder.” Mason Cooley
 
 
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Today is Thanksgiving Day in the United States.

I’m sharing several sites that have listed books and other materials about gratitude. Please enjoy…

1. 11 Books to Read Over the Holidays – A list of must-read books about gratitude to keep you grounded during the holiday frenzy.
http://www.care2.com/causes/11-books-about-gratitude-to-read-over-the-holidays.html

2. Practicing Gratitude: Best books on gratitude – Feeling and expressing gratitude is something that can be learned. Here are four books to help.
http://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/963660/best-books-on-gratitude

3. Books to Inspire Gratitude for Children – PBS article with a list of books for children.
http://www.pbs.org/parents/adventures-in-learning/2013/11/books-inspire-gratitude

4. More Books About Gratitude for Children – Help your independent readers learn valuable lessons in gratitude with these fun titles. They’ll thank you for the book suggestions!
http://www.scholastic.com/parents/resources/book-list/life-experiences-values/books-about-gratitude

5. Instructions on Gratitude – An article about one of Oprah’s Book Club selection.
http://www.oprah.com/oprahsbookclub/Instructions-on-Gratitude

6. To Do Institute – An entire page dedicated to sharing articles and other resources about gratitude.
http://www.todoinstitute.org/gratitude.html

7. Gratitude Attitude on Pinterest – Gratitude and thankfulness should be celebrated all year ’round, not just Thanksgiving!
http://www.pinterest.com/LilikoiJoy/gratitude-attitude

8. Living in Gratitude – Blog post – How often do you make time to tell and show the people you love and respect (including yourself) how grateful you’re feeling? Today is the perfect time to begin practicing the “art” of gratitude. Here are a few suggestions.
http://www.sharonmichaelspowertosucceed.com/living-in-gratitude

9. Gratitude Quotations – 49 Gratitude Quotes and a Poem about Thankfulness.
http://daringtolivefully.com/gratitude-quotes

10. The Seven Best Gratitude Quotes – Psychology Today – Includes why the magazine chose each quotation.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201111/the-seven-best-gratitude-quotes

I’ll leave you with this quotation from Zig Ziglar: “Of all the “attitudes” we can acquire, surely the attitude of gratitude is the most important and by far the most life-changing.”

May you live everyday with an attitude of gratitude!
 
 
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We all love recognition! In this Quick Video Success Tip, I share a few easy suggestions for recognizing the accomplishments of your team members.

Be sure to turn up your speakers.

You can watch over 100 Quick Video Success on Sharon’s YouTube Channel: Sharon’s The Power To Succeed YouTube Channel

 
 
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BY EMILY POST – Published in 1922

This publication is now in the public domain – I thought you’d find this interesting…

The subject of American manners, as they appear to Europeans, cannot be dismissed without comment on a reprehensible type of American girl who flourishes on shipboard, on tours, and in public places generally—but most particularly in the large and expensive hotels of Continental resorts.

Fashion 1922

If she and her family have a “home,” they are never in it, and if they have any object in life other than letting her follow her own unhampered inclinations, it is not apparent to the ordinary observer. Such a girl is always over-dressed, she wears every fashion in its extremest exaggeration, she sparkles with jewelry, and reeks of scent, she switches herself this way and that, and is always posing in public view and playing to the public gallery. She generally has a small brother who refuses to go to bed at night, or to stop making the piazza chairs into a train of cars, or to use the public halls as a skating rink. When he is not making a noise, he is eating. And his “elegant” sister looks upon him with disdain.

Sister, meanwhile, jingling with chains and bangles, decked in scarfs and tulle and earrings, leans on or against whatever happens to be convenient, flirting with any casual stranger who comes along. She invariably goes to her meals alone—evidently thinking her parents should be kept apart from her. She is never away from the Kurhaus or Casino, abroad or the hotel lobby in America. She is nearly always alone, and the book she is perpetually reading is always opened at the same page, and she is sure to look up as you pass. She is very ready to be “picked up” and to confide her life’s history, past, present and future, to any stranger, especially a young one of the opposite sex. She is rude only to her mother and father. She is also (we know, but Europe doesn’t) a perfectly “good” girl.

Her lack of etiquette is shocking, but her morals are above reproach. She does not even mean to be rude to her parents, and she has no idea that the things she does are exactly those which condemn her in the opinion of strangers. If she were constantly with, and obviously devoted to her mother, she would make an infinitely better impression, both as to good form and as to heart, than by segregating herself so that she can be joined by any haphazard youth who strolls into view, and thereby cheapening not only herself but the name of the American girl in general.

Curiously enough, if she marries in Europe, she is apt to “settle down” and become an altogether admirable example of American-European womanhood, because she is sound fruit at heart—merely wrapped in tawdry gilt paper trimming by her adoring but ignorantly unwise parents who, in their effort to show her off, disguise the very qualities which should have been accentuated.

What do you think? Have times changed much from 1922?

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