I don’t mean this to be a negative post, but I’m hearing more and more coaching clients struggle with negative people in their lives who seem to be undermining their success. Here are my thoughts:

I’ve found that sometimes there are loved ones and close friends who are uncomfortable with our successes. In fact they are so uncomfortable that they “pick away” at our motivation to succeed. Here are some tell-tail signs that someone close to you may be emotionally undermining your success.

The human mind reacts instantly, powerfully and effectively to any form of discomfort, whether actual or imagined. For example: Let’s say your successes begin making someone you care about uncomfortable. Maybe they feel you’re not spending enough time with them or you’ll change and won’t want them in your life any more. The person experiencing the discomfort may unconsciously want you to feel the discomfort too. I know what you’re saying – “Sharon, that doesn’t even make any sense.”

Think about your desire to succeed this way. Your loved ones aren’t the ones walking in your shoes. Plus it’s important to remember that everyone sees the world through their own eyes and framed by their own life experiences. More than likely, the person uncomfortable with your success didn’t realize that their way of life would change just because you want to become more successful.

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If you’re bombarded with discouragement and negativity, then those people closest to you are uncomfortable with the “unknowns” of your success. They may be wondering: How will you change? Will you still have time for them? Will you still care about them?

Is it time to sit down and analyze what may be creating success stress with friends and family?

Here are five questions to think about:

1. Make a list of all the people you believe are unhappy and/or uncomfortable with your desire to improve and empower yourself. Which one person, of all the people you’ve listed, seems to be able to hurt and disturb you the most? How do they hurt you? Why does it hurt so much?

2. Is there a pattern to what happens between you and the other person (people) just before the discouragement or negativity begins? Did you share a hope or dream, talk about something that made you happy but that they weren’t a part of, receive a monetary award or have to take some time and energy away from them? There’s something happening that creates an emotional “hurt” within the other person (people) and that’s what you’re trying to discover by answering this question.

3. Is the person who seems most uncomfortable with your success, happy with where they are currently in their own life? An unhappy person can become an unconscious “discourager” because it is often true that unhappiness loves company.

4. When this person attempts to undermine your success, how do you react? Do you apologize for your happiness and success? Do you try to justify why you have to be successful? Do you feel guilty? Do you feel selfish for wanting success?

5. When you hear the discouraging words and begin experiencing the negativity do you stop doing the things that will bring you success? Are you allowing the negativity of others to determine what you’ll allow yourself to accomplish? People will continue discouraging and negative behaviors will continue if they’re getting the results they want to get. Now, who has the power, you or the person being the discourager? That’s right, the discourager has the power. Wouldn’t you agree then that you’re encouraging their discouraging behavior?

Is it time to do some soul-searching? Is it time to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your loved ones, friends and coworkers? Could you be on the verge of possibly self-sabotaging your success to please others?

Success secret: You begin eliminating the negatives in your life as soon as you recognize and understand the damaging effect these negatives are having on your emotionally and physically well-being. Change begins with the desire to change what isn’t working into something that will work.
 
 
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In all the years I’ve been coaching women in business, I’m still amazed at how many entrepreneurs expect immediate success. In business, success doesn’t happen over night. How many times have we heard about the so-called overnight success who waited years and years for her big break? Success is a process that takes time, energy, focused planning and persistence.

Patience in business is a virtue. Many well-meaning business owners give up before their business has enough time to reach fruition. In other words, many entrepreneurs give up before payday.

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I believe success takes physical, emotional and mental stamina – success isn’t for the faint of heart! What does it take for a business owner to become successful without getting discouraged or impatient?

Business success is about:
• Having a viable plan and working that plan consistently.
• Believing in yourself and your ability to succeed in business.
• Working with a business model that makes best use of your skills and talents.
• Possessing an unstoppable commitment to business success.
• Knowing that success takes personal and professional time, effort and patience.

1. Developing patience begins with a viable and motivating plan of action. Success means having a practical and workable plan that will consistently attract prospective customers and create steady income. The key element to success is making emotional peace with the fact that it takes time before any plan of action begins to pay off. I’ll say it again – success doesn’t happen over night.

2. Success in life and in business begins with belief. Success in business is as much about personal development as it is about professional development. The self-confidence you have in yourself as a successful business owner is a key factor to the success or failure of your business. If you believe in what you are offering and can back up that belief with a well thought out business plan, you are setting the stage for success. Belief in yourself and your ability to succeed provides the motivation and patience to keep going until payday. An unstoppable belief in yourself and your business can often make the difference between success and failure.

3. Understanding how to capitalize on your natural gifts and talents is vital to success. I realize that not all of us get to “choose” our businesses – some of us inherit or marry businesses. It’s the unique gifts and talents that you bring to a business that can make the difference between succeeding and failing. What are your unique business gifts and talents? If there are business skills you are lacking, can you hire someone who is accomplished at those skills? Can you take classes or attend seminars to learn new skills? When you believe you are skilled in your business, you are more willing to do what it takes to succeed and less willing to give up before payday.

4. Commitment is vital to success! Whether it is to a business relationship or the growth of a business, commitment is the glue that holds a vision of success together. TheFreeDictionary.com defines commitment as: The state of being bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action or to another person or persons. Commitment to the success of your business involves both a physical and an emotional pledge to yourself and your company that becoming discouraged is not an option.

5. There is a price to pay for success. You’ve heard the saying, “If success was so easy, everyone would be one.” There is a personal and professional price to pay when growing a successful business. It takes time, effort and persistence. Successful women have learned how to balance their personal and professional lives. A successful business owner knows that their vision for the future is powerful enough to justify the time and effort they must spend on business.

It is up to you to decide if being a business owner is the right choice. Success is work. It’s a fact of business that not all businesses succeed and not all entrepreneurs are successful. An important element to achieving success is patience. I believe too many business owners become impatient and give up before they’ve given themselves reasonable time to become profitable and successful.

Do you have the patience to succeed? Are you willing to nurture and grow a successful business? Are you willing to nurture and grow yourself? Here’s the bottom line: Are you willing to not give up before payday?
 
 
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Quick Tips to Help Grow Your Business and Yourself!

Tips busy women in business can read in under a minute and use for years to come…
 
 
3 Great Ways to Build Win-Win Relationships

1. Ask questions and then really listen.
Showing sincere interest in a person will draw them to you.

2. Speak kindly to everyone.
Many of us are hungry for kind words. Being sincerely kind sets you apart.

3. Honestly care about others.
When you truly care about another person, your actions and words show it.
 
 
 
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Very interesting infographic and study. Are you taking time to relax, rejuvenate and unwind?

Project Time-Off labels Americans who work constantly without downtime or taking a vacation the “work martyrs.” We know we should make time for family vacations and yet, we justify our reluctance to stop working with a variety of reasons. Project Time-Off found about two-in-five workers (37%) conclude it is simply not “easy” to take the time they have earned. Workers cite returning to a mountain of work (40%) and the feeling that nobody else can do their job (35%) as the top reasons they leave vacation unused.

Please, let us know your thoughts about the Project Time-Off infographic.

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Come listen to author and mentor to women in business and executive producer of Women Enjoying Success Radio Sharon Michaels as she shares ideas, tips and suggestions for asking for and getting more business referrals.

Good referrals are all about quality and not quantity – it all begins with building win-win relationships. You’ll want to listen with pen and paper to make notes and jot down a few business-building “aha’s.”
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