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I had a writing assignment to create a story with a Nancy Drew bent to it. This blog post is what I wrote. Consider it my editorial opinion wrapped in a fictitious story.

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Judy Baily isn’t one to meddle or pry, but when she sees injustice she has to act. That’s exactly what happened last Wednesday on her way to ballet class. She watched as a teenage boy sitting at the bus stop was being tormented by a group senior citizens. She knew she had to do something.

Yes, you read that correctly – a teenage boy was being tormented by a group senior citizens.

Here’s what Judy had to say…

My name is Judy Baily and I’m an eighteen year old senior in high school. I believe in respect, dignity and being a good citizen. I know that sometimes my age group can get a bad rap for being rebellious, rude or inconsiderate. I’m here to say that as in any generation or age group we have our bad apples, but we teenagers aren’t all part of a preconceived stereotype.

I want to share what happened in my neighborhood a couple of days ago and maybe this will change your perception of stereotypes.

My best friend Margie Morgan and I walk to ballet class every Wednesday after school. Neither of us want to dance professionally, but it is wonderful exercise and we enjoy being part of an amateur dance troupe. It’s about a five block walk from our street to the dance school. On our way we pass by a neighborhood senior center. We generally see one or two of the senior citizens waiting at the bus stop for their ride home.

Last Wednesday as we were walking by we noticed a group of older adults surrounding a teenage boy who was sitting and waiting at the bus stop. I don’t want to be judgmental, but this teenager had a few tattoos and piercings. With that said, all he was doing was sitting and waiting for a bus.

Margie and I heard the unruly group of seven senior citizens begin making fun of this young man’s appearance. They were calling him unflattering names. The young man to his credit didn’t reply. The teenager was probably fourteen or fifteen and was dressed in black leather and combat boots. He was not, and I repeat was not, bothering anyone.

Margie and I couldn’t stand by and allow a group of adults to mistreat this young man.

“Ladies, why are you harassing this young man?” Margie asked as politely as I’ve ever heard her.

“This hooligan is ruining our neighborhood.” Answered the most outspoken of the women.

“Why do you say that?” I asked innocently.

“Well just look at him. He looks like troublemaker.” A short stocky woman with grey hair and glasses snorted at me.

“Did he do something to you?” Margie wanted to know.

“No, not yet. He’s just waiting for us to turn our backs and then he’ll steal our bus money or worse.” A silver haired woman in a wheel chair chimed in.

“So what you’re saying is because this young fellow looks different than you, he must be up to no good.” I added to the conversation. I couldn’t hold my words back any longer.

“We’re not saying that exactly,” the first woman stammered, “we’re saying we know his type.”

I stood back and watched the teenager look down at the ground and not say a word. He wasn’t angry and didn’t seem upset by the confrontation. Quite frankly, in my opinion he was acting more mature than our “mature citizens.”

“So,” I said, “you are prejudging someone by their looks without knowing anything about them. I believe that’s called being prejudice.”

The seven senior citizens, turned in unison looking at me with that deer in the headlights look.

“We aren’t prejudice, we’re being cautious.” Said one woman in the back of the group.

Margie’s cheeks were turning red with anger as she piped up, “If you saw a group of teenagers doing what you are doing to this young man, what would you think of the situation? Would you think that a group of people were harassing the person sitting on the bench?”

“Of course we would, but that’s different. The elderly are vulnerable.”

I couldn’t help myself. I had to continue Margie’s argument. “What gives you the right to harass and judge this young man? Just because he may look different than you think he should, does that give you the right to harass him?”

As I finished my sentence the city bus pulled up. The young man stood up and boarded the bus. I watched him take a seat by the window and mouth “thank you” to me.

“I mean no disrespect, but you should be ashamed of yourselves. You are older, wiser and we look up to you to be our role models. My grandmother always said, ‘Never judge a book by its cover.’ Maybe that’s something all of you should remember when faced with a situation like this.” I blurted out in one long exasperated breath.

Margie smiled sweetly and said, “Have a nice day ladies.” We turned away from the group of women and continued walking to ballet class.

When I think back, I realize three teenagers handled a tense situation with more maturity than seven senior citizens who should have known better.

Let me ask you this: If you walked by and saw the same scenario, how would you have handled the situation?

  • Would you have walked by and done nothing?
  • Would you have stopped to see what was happening?
  • Would you have taken sides before knowing all the facts?

The moral of the story: As my grandmother always said, never judge a book by its cover.

Please take a minute and share your thoughts with us.

***This is a work of fiction.***
None of it is real. All names, characters, businesses, places, events and incidents are either the products of the author’s imagination or used in a fictitious manner. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental.
 
 
Thank you for reading this post,
 

 
 
 
 
Sharon Michaels
Author, blogger and success teacher
Owner of WomenWhoWantToSuccessfullyWorkForThemselves.com
 
 
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We have a guest blog post from Marilyn Sarno, Independent Consultant Apriori Beauty.

I am a sixties girl. I loved the 1960s when I was a teenager and the end of the decade completing college. I loved the fashion, the make-up and the music. The look was natural aka little makeup. Most of us used a gentle soap, moisturizer, blush and mascara.

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Now, at 66 years young reflecting back I realize how little I knew about basic skin care and preventing the signs of aging.

I wasn’t thinking about ever aging! Today, I hear young women concerned when they turn 30 years about impending wrinkles.

I believe that this a reflection of our society hyper-focused on unrealistic beauty and avoiding any aging process. Many older woman state that they inherited their healthy skin and beauty from their mother. It’s my genes! I did some reading from reputable sites and the consensus is that although genetics (intrinsic aging) plays a part, your daily habits (extrinsic) have more of an impact on your skin as you age.

As much as 90% of your lifestyle and environment affects the aging of your skin. The 90% environmental factors are:

  • Smoking,
  • Excess exposure to the sun,
  • Poor diet and too much alcohol,
  • Inadequate sleep,
  • Chronic stress,
  • Using harsh skin care products,
  • Lack of a beauty skin care regimen.

We all know that leaving makeup on while we sleep and forgetting the sunscreen leaves our skin vulnerable to dry, wrinkled skin and age spots. Please don’t forget to drink enough water throughout the day too.

Let’s look at each group and the aging timeline:

Millennials were born around mid-1980s to early 2000
During our 20s and early 30s the first fine lines form around our lips and eyes. You know those smile wrinkles around your eyes and squinting too much causing frown lines. Much of this is due to the early decline of collagen and elastin. Collagen and elastin are the proteins that make skin firm and elastic.

Generation X were the group born approximately from 1965 – 1980
They followed the post WW11 Baby Boomers. During the 40s the skin continues to lose collagen and elastin and blood circulation slows which results in less nourishment to the lower levels of the skin. Thus, wrinkles start to become permanent.

Baby Boomers – post-World War 11 generation born between 1946 and 1964
During our 50s and 60s we experience hormonal changes especially during menopause. We see gravity taking over and our skin starts to sag.
Reduced cell turnover can cause the skin to appear dry and dull. We recognize those signs of aging as hyperpigmentation, change in texture and an increase in wrinkles.

Over the years, I would go to the spa for a professional facial. I would ask the Esthetician, what is the most important thing I can do to prevent aging?

I have seen many different Estheticians and they all say the same thing. Proper basic skin cleansing morning and night and good quality skin care products without any toxic chemicals.

This beauty routine benefits all age groups. The earlier you start the discipline of a beauty regimen which should include exfoliating, cleansing, toner, serum, and SPF moisturizer/night cream and combine it with a healthy lifestyle, the more youthful your skin will appear.
You will be aging gracefully and look beautiful!
 
 
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Before I got serious about succeeding in my business and my life, I didn’t believe in goal setting. Maybe believe isn’t the right word. Quite frankly I didn’t know about setting goals. No one taught me or showed how to set a goal or why a setting goal was important.

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Here’s what I remember growing up:
1. I was told where to be and at what time. Example: School bus stop, dinner table, ballet lessons, etc.

2. I was told what needed to be done and by when and it was expected to be done.

3. All during school I was told what I had to do to get a passing grade and it was expected to be completed or I failed.
 
 
I wasn’t taught to make goals, I was taught to follow directions. Can you relate?

I’m not blaming parents, teachers or society – it was what was. When I finished college and went on job interviews and the interviewer asked me what my goals were for the next five years, I’m sure I looked like a deer in the headlights. I probably answered something like, “I want to get this job.”

That is the past. Everything changed when I started reading classic books like Think and Grow Rich, The Magic of Thinking Big, The Magic of Believing, etc. I began to understand the power of knowing what I wanted, making time to write it down, seeing it become reality in my mind and then forming a realistic plan of action to achieve it.

This new mindset was a leap of faith for me. A part of me didn’t understand how just writing something down could make achieving it easier? Didn’t it take “hard work” and a lot of luck?

Here’s what I discovered and maybe this will help you understand why I am a BIG believer in setting goals:

1. Making time to write out my goal helped me organize my hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Writing what I wanted down on paper took it from a daydream to a possibility.

2. When I wrote my goal, I started to see it becoming a reality in my mind. I felt hopeful and excited about the future. It gave me a purpose.

3. Knowing what I wanted helped me formulate a plan of action – a step-by-step blueprint for working to make this goal reality.

4. I didn’t always know how I was going to make my goal reality, but I believed without a doubt it would become reality. It was that unwavering belief and commitment to wanting to achieve my goal that kept me going forward even when the going got tough. Yes there were set backs and disappointments, but seeing myself living out my goal kept me going forward.

5. I surrounded myself with motivation. I created Vision Boards, placed motivational sayings around my work area, read inspirational books, affirmed success daily and developed a network of like-minded positive people who were also going for their goals.

6. I learned how to use my time wisely. I focused on those activities that would take me one step closer to my goals. I was focused on success.

7. I asked my friends and family to support me emotionally on my goal journey. I basically said, “If you cannot say anything positive about what I am doing, please don’t say anything at all.”

My mindset and lifestyle didn’t change overnight. It was an ongoing process to reprogram my belief system from being told what to do, to taking responsibility for telling myself what to do.

Honestly, I believe goals aren’t just necessary for success – they are vital for success.

  • Goals help us focus on going forward in positive productive ways.
  • Goals give us hope for the future.
  • Goals give us a path from where we are now to where we want to be in the days, months and years to come.

I believe in goal setting so much I wrote a step-by-step how to book. It is available as paperback and Kindle on Amazon.com – here’s a link:
21 Days to Living Your Dreams

Here’s my challenge for you:
* Make time this week to sit and decide what you’d like to achieve in the next six months.
* Write that goal on paper – in your handwriting.
* Decide how much time you can devote to making this goal reality.
* Write a plan for achieving your goal.
* Write out in detail how achieving this goal will change your life for the positive.

Are you ready to take me up on my challenge?

Please, share your thoughts and comments with us. We’d love to hear from you.
 
Here’s to making your awesome goals reality,
 

 
 
 
 
Sharon Michaels
Author – Blogger – Coach to Women Entrepreneurs
Owner of WomenWhoWantToSuccessfullyWorkForThemselves.com

P. S. If you’d like to coach one-on-one, join a MasterMind group or become a guest blogger on this blog, please email me at – coaching@sharonmichaels.com or use the Contact Sharon form on this site.
 
 
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Entrepreneurial Women Radio Sharon Michaels Join author and mentor to women in business Sharon Michaels as she shares her thoughts about the power of using Social Media to grow your business.

Social Media is here to stay and if you aren’t using it to grow your business, you’re missing a huge marketing opportunity. You’ll want pen and paper handy to make some notes and jot down a few Social Media and business-building “aha’s.”

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Love is a powerful word and has very personal meaning to each of us. As we mature and grow, I believe our definition of “love” changes from decade to decade.

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Here’s what I mean:
As a baby we bask in the love of our parents,
As a teen we bask in the love of others,
As an adult we learn to give the gift of love,
As we grow into our twilight years, we bask in the love of knowing we left our mark on the world by giving and receiving unconditional love.
 
 
 
 
As I’ve matured, mellowed and grown, I’ve come to realize that before we can love others and accept their love, we must first love ourselves.

So many of us spend time looking outside ourselves for validation, belonging and “love” that we fail to look inside – inside our own heart and mind.

I’m not talking about being conceited or narcissistic.
• I’m talking about valuing your worth and respecting your gifts and talents.
• I’m talking about not allowing others to steal your dreams.
• I’m talking about speaking to yourself with respect and dignity.
• I’m talking about striving for excellence and not perfection.
• I’m talking about working daily to enhance your self-esteem and the self-esteem of others.
• I’m talking about not settling for less, but striving for the best.
• I’m talking about giving yourself permission to live the life of your dreams.
• I’m talking about believing, without a doubt, you deserve to love and be loved unconditionally.

Loving yourself allows you to be open to what is best for you personally, professionally, emotionally, spiritually and financially. With self-love comes the ability to trust – especially the ability to trust yourself.

I believe self-love and healthy self-esteem go hand-in-hand. With healthy self-esteem comes the ability to confidently make wise decisions and good choices. When you love and respect yourself, decisions are made from an internal place of empowerment and confidence and not from fear or need.

I can’t even tell you how many years it took me to figure out that love for others and love for life comes from finding self-love – the self-love and respect you have for yourself as a competent, worthy and deserving person.

Here’s how I decided to work on loving myself unconditionally and maybe you’ll find this helpful too:

1. I consciously decided to say only positive things about myself to myself. I would catch myself saying something negative about my looks, my abilities, etc. and I’d immediately say something empowering to myself.

2. When someone gives me a compliment, I say a simple “thank you.” I don’t try to justify the compliment, I accept the compliment graciously.

3. I eliminated toxic and negative people from my life. If I was related to some of the negative people, I would find ways to counteract the negativity. For example: I say a positive affirmation to myself as the negative person is talking about me or “at” me.

4. I surround myself with empowering books, people and opportunities.

5. I refuse to be drawn into the drama and negativity of others.

I’m not saying this is easy. It took me several years before I felt I could confidently face any situation, no matter how negative, and still love myself as a worthy and deserving person. I’ll say it again, I’ve come to realize that before we can love others or accept their love, we must first love ourselves unconditionally.

Are you ready to…

  • Always talk to yourself with love and respect – no matter the circumstances?
  • Not allow others to chip away at your self-confidence and self-esteem?
  • Affirm daily, “I love myself just the way I am”?

Here’s to loving ourselves and loving our lives!

 
 
 
 
Sharon Michaels
Author, blogger and success teacher
Owner of WomenWhoWantToSuccessfullyWorkForThemselves.com

P. S. If you’d like to coach one-on-one, join a MasterMind group or become a guest blogger on this blog, please email me at – coaching@sharonmichaels.com or use the Contact Sharon form on this site.
 
 
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