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Signs of Self-Sabotage

Let me start with my definition of self-sabotage: Any self-limiting or destructive behaviors that keeps you from living up to your true potential.

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I’ve been studying self-sabotage just about my entire adult life. I’ve lived with self-sabotaged and even written books on the subject. I consider myself an expert on self-sabotaging behaviors. The other evening I came across a list I began several years ago of the signs I noticed within myself and others who had self-sabotaging habits and behaviors. I want to share that list with you.

_ Praise from others is the primary measuring stick by which you judge yourself and your abilities

_ Feelings of guilt for wanting to succeed and living out your goals
 
 
 
_ Not trusting your instincts and judgment and then allowing others to sway you

_ Being a people pleaser and/or a perfectionist

_ Getting sick, tired or unhappy after a success or receiving recognition

_ Over spending, over shopping, over eating ….

_ Taking care of others but not taking good care of yourself and/or being a martyr

_ Success looks and feels overwhelming and not very much fun

_ Money is constantly an emotional struggle

_ Making emotional mountains out of everyday mole hills – castrophizing

_ In a constant state of worry, even when there isn’t anything to worry about

_ You surround yourself with negative and disempowered people

_ Even when a situation is disempowering and/or unhealthy you stay because you never know, things may change

_ You settle – you take what you can get even if it is not necessarily what you want

_ Making plans to do something you’ll enjoy and then finding a reason to cancel

_ Not being able to relax and enjoy yourself, especially on vacation

_ Feeling as if you have to save the world

_ Focusing on the negatives, especially about yourself

_ Blaming yourself when things go wrong even if it is not your fault

_ Avoiding things that unpleasant, especially if they are confrontational

_ Not believing you are smart or good enough for success and happiness

_ Procrastination – waiting until the last minute

_ Overextending yourself – not being to say no

_ Too many things to do crammed into a too short time period

_ Not knowing how to relax

_ Not making time to relax – always on the move

_ Not making quiet time to listen to the silence – your own thoughts

_ Making excuses and not progress

_ Failing to plan

What could you add to this list?

Well, what do you think? Recognize any of the self-sabotaging signs?
 
Here’s to going forward to positive ways,
 

 
 
 
 
Sharon Michaels
Author – Blogger – Coach to Women Entrepreneurs
Owner of WomenWhoWantToSuccessfullyWorkForThemselves.com

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