Learning to enjoy success is a subject near and dear to my heart. I have to admit I’ve spent most of my adult life sabotaging success. If you haven’t heard the term “self-sabotage” you probably don’t have a clue what I’m talking about.
Logically and realistically, who wouldn’t want to be successful? When it comes to self-sabotaging success, logic has nothing to do with it – it’s all about emotions. Think of self-sabotage as taking three steps forward toward your goals and then suddenly, and without warning, you’re taking two steps back. I call it the sabotage shuffle. Most of the time we don’t consciously realize we are “shuffling” because it’s become a natural way of living our lives.
My definition of sabotaging success: Any destructive thoughts, habits or behaviors keeping you from achieving and enjoying success.
I made success a struggle for as long as I can remember. I would begin to succeed and then suddenly change careers, get sick or move to another city. Unconsciously I’d do something to lose momentum and have to begin my quest for success all over again.
I came to realize success wasn’t fun for me. Without consciously knowing it, I was doing things to make success a struggle. In fact, being a role model or having to maintain success seemed downright frightening to me. Thankfully I don’t feel that way any longer.
Here are a few things I did to change my thinking and mindset. If you can relate to making success a struggle, you may want to do these activities too:
1. I made a list of success words and wrote down my first “emotional” reaction to each word.
I studied my answers carefully. There were positive lessons to be learned from my reactions.
2. I wrote a detailed description of what success meant to me emotionally, physically, spiritually, professionally, personally and financially. It took several months to complete my descriptions, but it was well worth the time and effort.
3. I made time daily to read or listen to personal and professional development books. My goal was to discover one new positive thing about myself each day and turn that discovery into a positive affirmation.
The biggest lesson I learned: Success is about believing I am worthy and deserving of the rewards associated with being successful. Today I can honestly say I appreciate and enjoy my successes! I’ve written an entire book on the subject of recognizing and conquering self-sabotage. It is available as a paper and Kindle.
Here’s the link: How To Give Your the POWER to Succeed on Amazon.com – Recognizing the things you’re doing that may be keeping you from the things you want.
Let me ask you this:
- Could you be making success a struggle?
- Could you be unconsciously self-sabotaging?
- Could you be allowing the opinions of others to influence your desire to succeed?
Here’s what I’d like you to do during the coming weeks: Make success fun!
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